8 Things You Hear When You’re Gay

If you’re LGBT, here are just 8 things you have most likely heard at some stage. Prepare for some serious eye rolling.

1. ‘Tell me your coming out story!’

Yes, because that’s a light hearted story I’d love to share.


2. ‘So which one of you girls is the boy?’

What? Neither of us. That’s the point!


3. ‘I went to a gay bar once, but all the guys came on to me.’

Sure they did! We all believe you.


 4. ‘Ugh, that’s so gay. No offence!’

This better be on route to extinction.


5. ‘Did you binge watch Orange is the New Black?’

Ok, you can have that one.


6. ‘There’s a gay guy in work, do you know him?’

Of course! Why wouldn’t I know this completely random person you work with?


7. ‘But, you don’t look gay!’

Apologies, I left my feather boa back in 1985.


8. And finally, ‘What exactly… do you do?’

Just.. no. Ain’t nobody got time for that.

Listen: Mid-Week Tune – Broods ‘Bridges’

Dublin festival goers had the pleasure of seeing this brother/sister act live at Longitude last Sunday. And as expected, reviews have been nothing but stellar for the New Zealand duo, Broods. If like me you didn’t catch them live, have a listen to what we missed by wrapping your ears around their beautiful track ‘Bridges’ – our choice of mid-week tune.

They’ve been penned by many as the ‘one to watch’. From touring with Haim, releasing their EP ‘Evergreen’, and preparing for a tour with Sam Smith, Broods are giving us plenty to pay attention to. The siblings, aka Caleb and Georgia Nott, have been performing together since early childhood. At just 21 and 19 years of age, they add to a rising number of young entertainers to recently emerge from New Zealand. Most notably is 17 year old singer-songwriter Lorde. We could take some of that credit thanks to her surname ‘O’Connor’, but it’s most likely down to their shared producer Joel Little who has managed to help put both acts on the map. If Lorde’s success is anything to go by, the talented duo are only going to get bigger. And well deserved we think.

Gender Identity: Ruby Breaks Free

Gender identity is a person’s private sense of their own gender. In all societies there is a basic division between gender attributes assigned to males and females. For a lot of people it can be pretty simple. A biological male can be completely comfortable being categorised in all aspects assigned to men. For many others however, it’s not as straight forward. People can identify anywhere along the gender spectrum. This can mean the opposite sex, or anywhere in between the two sexes. Repression can arise when society reacts offensively or inappropriately to a person’s display of their unique gender identity. Whether rooted in ignorance or discrimination, it is this reaction which is becoming a much discussed topic among those who are affected by it.

Australian model, DJ and LGBT spokesperson Ruby Rose recently released a short film which focused on this subject of gender identities. Rose is known for genderbending, and in her own words, it’s a ‘short film about gender roles, Trans, and what it is like to have an identity that deviates from the status quo’.

There is no doubt that Rose is a beautiful person. In response to the video, there have been countless messages of support and love. But as we could cynically predict, not all reaction has been positive. Some people have commented that she ‘looks better’ at the beginning when she portrays a more socially acceptable feminine identity. I’ve even heard one person say that she ‘ruined herself by cutting off her hair and stuff’. Now whether they missed the entire point of the video or not is questionable, because it’s unfathomable to me how one could think that the awkward, clearly uncomfortable Rose, ‘ruined herself’ by embracing the androgynous identity at the end which she clearly feels comfortable with. It showed me that there are people in society who would rather see someone portray and live in an identity they do not hold but it socially acceptable, rather than #breakfree and live the identity that they truly possess.

What I found worst of all was that this opinion came from a member of the LGBT community. I don’t know why that should be worse than if the opinion came from a straight person. Perhaps it’s because LGBT discrimination usually comes from those outside the community. I find it uncomfortable and hypocritical to experience it coming from someone within, who is all too familiar with certain societal restraints impressed on those who identify as LGBT. Rose obviously picked up on this herself as she posted the following on her Facebook page:

“You know what needs to stop just as much as homophobia, bullying within the LGBT Community… A ‘bisexual’ isn’t just greedy.. ‘Pansexual’ exists and isn’t a cop out.. ‘Straight’ people can be gay huge advocates and blessings to the community… you can identify as trans without surgery, you can be gender fluid… in fact guess what… you can be whoever you are and like whoever you like and WE should spread the love and acceptance we constantly say we don’t receive. I will delete any inter fan/follower bullying.. because its so backwards and does not belong on my page.”

We have an ongoing struggle in this world for equality and acceptance in the lives of LGBT people. But if we have discrimination within the community, how can we hope to eliminate discrimination from outside it? I applaud Rose for her brave portrayal of a sensitive topic. I hope that it generates recognition and acceptance for anyone who relates to her story. I already know of one person who has been inspired, and so at least for that Ruby, I am grateful.

Listen: Mid-Week Tune: Simian Mobile Disco ‘I Believe’

Half way gone, half way to go. Happy mid-week one and all! Looking back on previous posts, it seems we have a preference for electronic and rap tunes. We literally mixed them together once with Jay-Z and Passion Pit! So in continuation of our unintentional theme, this week we are giving you London electronic duo, Simian Mobile Disco. Have a little listen to their massive hit, ‘I Believe’. We’ll leave a link below to their SoundCloud, because trust us – you’re gonna want more.

Simian Mobile Disco are well highly respected for their own material, but they’ve also ventured out by remixing and producing for others. They’ve popped their own stamp on songs by artists such as Klaxons and Peaches. They’re known for intense live shows with all of the strobe lights. All of them. Years ago I saw them in Dublin, except I didn’t really see them. There was some divine light separating us. But hey, the tunes made up for it. The duo recently played another gig in Dublin’s Twisted Pepper. There’s no shortage of appreciative fans here it seems, so enjoy their SoundCloud and prepare yourself for their next gig!


Listen: Mid-Week Tune: Crystal Castles ‘Not In Love’

We’ve almost reached the weekend, and this week’s tune is going to aid your journey there. If you haven’t already, then meet Canadian electronic band Crystal Castles. (Calm yourselves. We’re not playing ‘Alice Practice’, it’s not Saturday juuust yet). Instead today, enjoy a little desk bopping to their less invasive tune ‘Not In Love’.

It’s an interesting story about their tune ‘Alice Practice’ though. Crystal castles are a random little music duo. Founding member Ethan Kath met vocalist Alice Glass in 2004 after hearing her sing in an all-girl rock band. He asked her to lay down some vocals for a track he had been working on. While in studio recording, a sound engineer secretly recorded Alice practising. Kath found the record and uploaded it online titled ‘Alice Practice’. Clever boy, because that tune ended up attracting record deals. I presume he then called Alice (who had lost touch with Kath at this stage) and told her that he has secretly uploaded a video of her recording, buuut it was ok because they got a record deal and if she came back they could make more songs and be a band and stuff… Needless to say, the duo did record more together and went on to give us tunes such as today’s ‘Not In Love’.


So there you have it. You really never know what’s coming next.

Stay hopeful.

Happy hump day people!


Comedy Fail.

I love comedy. Absolutely love it. Having a sense of humour is a vital personality trait in my opinion. So I appreciate a good joke, a funny card and a talented comedian. Now Joan Rivers wasn’t exactly on my comedic radar before her E! show Fashion Police, but I’ll admit that I’ve laughed at a few of her jokes I’ve heard on the ads. I didn’t think much of her until a few days ago, when a video was released of the comedian making some verrrry random comments about President Obama and his wife Michelle.

Rivers was engaging with a reporter when she was asked if she thought the US would ever see a gay president. So, she replied saying “We already have it with Obama, so let’s just calm down.” As if that wasn’t bizarre enough, she went on to say “You know Michelle is a tranny…A transgender. We all know.”

I’m sorry, what? WHAT! Where did that even come from? And from what angle are we supposed to look at this? Because from every way I can see, it’s shocking, offensive and most definitely not funny.

Have a watch of the craziness below. Do you find it offensive? Let’s hear your comments.

Mid-Week Tune: Kayne West ‘Bound 2’

Let’s keep it short and sweet this week, as most of us are still recovering from the Dublin Pride celebrations. Ever since I heard the grity, jaw-wired version of ‘Through the Wire’ over 10 years ago, I have loved the tunes from this man. And seeing as I’ll be at his gig tonight, it’s only right to blast you with some Mr. Kayne West. Enjoy this controversial and awkward as hell video for ‘Bound 2’.

Kayne west is no stranger to speaking his mind. No doubt you’ve already thought of his infamous stunt at the MTV awards, where he interrupted Taylor Swift’s acceptance speech to voice his own opinion that Beyoncé, ‘had one of the best videos of all time’. Ah to have a friend like that, right Bey? Wrong. Yoncé later came out on stage to accept her own award for Video of the Year, and invited Taylor to come and have her moment. A bit quick to react Kayne? If only you waited until all the Video categories were announced. Sure enough, the incident made headlines worldwide and added to Kayne’s interesting reputation in the media.

He’s a lover of fashion too. Kayne often makes an appearance at Paris fashion shows, and tries to look the part himself. Other rappers like 50 Cent have actually attempted to label West as ‘gay’ because of his colourful attire. I shit you not. So in response to the childish claims, West explained to MTV that “your dress don’t give away whether or not you like a man.” Smart man this one. “I mean how is that a gay thing? Colours? Having a lot of colours is gay?”  He then went one step further (no surprise there) and said “because stereotypically gay people got such good [style] … they were smart enough to take a fresh-ass logo like the rainbow and say that it’s gonna be theirs.” Hmmm… we do like our fresh ass rainbow.

Whatever your feelings on Kayne West, take solace in the fact that you don’t share the same pain in life – “My greatest pain in life is that I will never be able to see myself perform live.”

Me 1 – Kayne 0


Listen: Pride Mid-Week Tune, Scissor Sisters ‘Let’s have a kiki’

Finally, it’s time for your Pride mid-week tune! And is there really any other choice but Scissor Sisters‘ absolute anthem, ‘Let’s Have a Kiki’? It’s doubtful. So fire up the smoke machine and put on your heels, ‘cause this is exactly what we need.

This American pop group were literally born out of New York’s gay scene. Their infectious and fabulous beats have been embraced as gay anthems in countries worldwide. The Scissor Sisters use language, themes and humour in their songs that are perfectly unique to the gay scene. Most famously, a ‘kiki’ is drag queen slang for a good time. There’s an entire gay culture which is hilarious, fabulous and enriching. It’s this culture that we try tap into with our products at Scene Designs, and it’s one of the best things about Pride. There ain’t no escaping it. (Unless of course you sit it out in favour of a Hollyoaks omnibus at home).

Making up roughly 8% of the population, the LGBT community is certainly a minority in Ireland. And most days, it’s not so easy to forget that. But surrounded by rainbow clad family and friends on Pride, we can almost feel like the majority. It’s about coming together, celebrating accomplishments and fighting for more. There’s something really special about seeing that rainbow flag displayed in pubs, shops and restaurants throughout the city at this time. Celebrities even come out and show their support. Cyndi Lauper led the celebrations at NY Pride when I visited in 2012. George Takei can’t be kept away from the parade! At Mother last year I was standing in the queue for the bathroom chatting away to the girl in front of me. After a while I said to her, ‘you know you look really like that girl Vogue?’ Yeah… it was that girl Vogue. Mortification aside, it was brilliant to have her and Brian out to celebrate with us.

So enjoy the tune and embrace the week. You’re fabulous. I wish you all a kiki this Pride!



Listen: Midweek Tune – Jay Z & Passion Pit ’99 Secrets’

It’s a scorcher in Dublin today, so this mid week tune is just as upbeat as our moods. Welcome a little mash-up of Jay Z and Passion Pit to your Wednesday, and have a listen to the glorious creation of ‘99 secrets’. Who knew the living King of hip hop would blend oh so well with the indie sound of this Massachusetts band?

The man needs no introduction, but for those of you who don’t know, Jay Z is one of the most successful hip hop artists of all time. Sure he’s only gone and sold over 75 million records. He started releasing music back in the early 1990s and I guarantee you know more of his songs than you think. I guess I’m of the age where I can’t remember a time that I didn’t know who Jay-Z was. And as a middle class white Irish girl in the 1990s, that’s really saying something. He trickled down the layers of society and became a household name. Even more so when he married the Queen that is Beyonce herself. These two are literally hip-hop royalty.

I’m happy to say that Jay-Z is also pro-LGBT. On the topic of equal marriage and homophobia in America, he said that it’s “something that’s still holding the country back. What people do in their own home is their business. It’s no different than discriminating against blacks. It’s discrimination, plain and simple.” You tell ’em Hova.

We got 99 problems, but Jay-Z ain’t one.